The Somatic Memoir Lab is here to help you finally write it.

Your soul has been longing to write a memoir.

Dear Soulful Visionary,

I see you. You’ve done amazing things in the world.

You are a leader, an artist, a change maker

You are a born teacher - and you’ve used it for good. 

You fought hard for your good fortune - and you made it.

You have deep friendships, a loving family and an honest relationship with yourself and others. 

You have the health, joy and success you longed for. Experiences that blew your mind.

Yet, there’s a creative part of you that you haven’t expressed.

The storyteller. The poet. The artist. The mystic. The healer

She remains hidden away. 

The truth is: it never felt safe for you to express her genius - to unleash her wild, creative soul

Even with all the privileges that come with success - you felt marginalized your entire life. 

Marginalized for your sensitivity, your brilliance, your intuition.

Marginalized for having a soul that shines a little too bright. 

Marginalized for your fiery heart, expansive vision, childlike tenderness.

You always knew you were different. 

You felt more deeply.

You knew things - without knowing how you know them. 

You got consumed by topics that interested you - and you couldn’t stop yourself from going deeper and deeper. 

You felt like you were “too much” for the world - yet “not enough” for what your soul longs to create in this world. 

I see you. I feel you. I am you. 

And I also know - there’s a story within you. 

A story only you can tell.

A story that is as ancient as time itself - longing to be expressed in a new way. 

A story that truly matters - for people, for culture, for the world. 

It’s my life’s mission

to help you write that story.

Hey, I am Tanya Taylor Rubinstein...

...and I’m obsessed with telling the stories that truly matter. 

I started off my career as an actor when I was 20 - and soon after, I met my mentor (late) Spalding Gray, a famous solo performer. He had broken away from traditional acting to tell the taboo stories through his solo performances - stories that people didn’t have the permission to tell back in the day.

His performances liberated me after growing up in a conventional upper middle class family from the Washington DC area. 

Throughout my childhood, my family conveyed to me that I couldn’t express any emotions or tell stories about anything that mattered. 

Meeting my mentor finally gave me the permission to tell my own taboo stories - and inspired me to help other people do the same. 

Over the last 3 decades - I’ve been on the quest to master the art of storytelling - and helping people liberate the stories that truly matter.

This journey has been wild, to say the least.

I left the East Coast and moved to Santa Fe, New Mexico -  based on pure intuition. 

I travelled to India to meet a guru in Lucknow who I thought was going to give me enlightenment. I almost died instead, became disillusioned, and returned to my own art form of story.

I wrote + performed my first one-woman show called Honeymoon in India (which became one of the top shows of the year in New Mexico).

I have helped my students write + perform over 50 shows - featuring important stories from: 

Patients with Cancer, HIV-AIDS and Mental Health Conditions (and their family members)

Young Palestinian and Israeli women about war + peace

Veterans with PTSD who have become peace activists

Hospice caregivers

Over the last 3 decades, I’ve helped well over 1000 people write and publish their memoirs, perform their solo shows on stage and write personal monologues that share their deepest soul experiences with the world.

It has been deeply therapeutic for me and my clients to tell our stories - it has created more healing, peace and joy than I ever thought possible. 

I have always known that storytelling is my path - my spiritual, emotional, human path. 

It’s my honor and joy to help my clients tell their stories at the highest level - so they can heal their heart, express their divinity and create a new narrative from these ancient stories.


Imagine: What would it be like to have completed your memoir 12 months from now?

What would it be like to...

Finally take your scraps of writing and myriad ideas - and create a profound, brilliant book out of it?

Use your body as a guide - to blend your divinity with your humanity - and share the stories that are begging to be born through you?

Experience storytelling as a therapeutic medium - connecting with the spiritual side of grief, loss, heartache - as well as unacknowledged intuitive gifts and joy?

Allow a greater message to flow through your voice and your wisdom - connecting your life’s purpose to the evolution of collective consciousness?

Have all the support you needed to stay on track, write an incredible memoir - and share your life as a gift to the world?

This is what I’m here to help you create in the Somatic Memoir Lab.

Somatic Writing Memoir Lab Methodology

Go from struggling, blocked writer, to successful, published author.

Liberate Your Voice, Write Your Book, & Publish to Untether Your Power.


“Tanya’s work is a gift and a necessity.”

- O, Oprah Magazine

“Tanya Taylor Rubinstein is the Story Shaman. Let us not use this word lightly. What she does, better than anyone I’ve met, is weave your calling, God’s purpose, and the mundane trivialities of life into a vibrant tapestry, called Story. These stories heal, inspire and ignite in ways you never imagined. When you receive the call to be with her, listen.”

- Susan Crowther

“Tanya created a creative container for my book project that allowed me to progress despite the periods when I lost momentum. Her firm but tender guidance provided me with just enough structure to finish my manuscript. She promised I would feel differently about myself after its completion and I do. I continue to draw upon her suggestions for accessing my wisest self."

- Janet Pfeffer

“Tanya has been the ancient midwife of my story. She cradled me, wept with me, sang me through my grief, coaxed my words, and gently guided me to the courage to birth my voice. She once said to me, “I can’t promise you safety here.” In its place, she supported me in the ultimate radical soul liberation - the telling of my story.”

- Melissa Kaplan

The Somatic Writing Lab

It’s my honor to present:

The Somatic Memoir Lab is a 12-month mentorship program designed to help creatives, healers and visionaries connect with their bodies and write soulful memoirs out of the stories they’ve been longing to tell.

Phase 1:  Story Archeology

In the first two months - we walk you through the process of calling back the mystical and other marginalized voices within you and allowing you to write stories from the r body, the ancestors and the land. 

We explore mystical realms and your ancestral lineage with the intention to liberate all the stories that are craving to be expressed through you. In this phase, we cover our core curriculum of Somatic Writing Tools.


Duration: 60 days

Phase 2:  Story Architecture

In the next two months - we walk you through the process of mapping your story and create a high-level outline of your book with the support of Tanya and a qualified Story Midwife. 

We will also be covering Fire and Bone Stories, Central Metaphor, and Fascia Stories (Connective Narratives). These are the basis of your living outline, which holds the book structure.


Duration: 60 days

Phase 3:  The Body Of The Book

In the next six months of the program - we support you in creating the body of your book. 

You will receive structured, weekly Studio Sessions with Tanya and the story midwives to help you write your own unique stories - while being inspired by great authors and fellow writers who are on this journey with you. 

You will also get supported by Somatic Healers who will help you address the trauma in your ancestral family constellation system - unblocking your writing and opening you to the multiple layers and timelines of your story.

You will receive all the support that full time literary writers receive - and more! 


Duration: 180 days

Phase 4:  Preparation for Publishing

In the last two months of the program, you’ll receive an editorial evaluation from Tanya and her team of editors. You will be guided to a path of self-publishing, hybrid publishing or traditional publishing, based on what’s right for you and your intentions for the book. 


Duration: 60 days

What's included in the Somatic Writing Memoir Lab:

The Somatic Memoir Lab

Group Program

Year Long Mentorship Program

  • 2 x Writing Workshops with Tanya - per month

  • 1 x Embodied Writing Session - per month

  • 1 X Meeting with your Cohort of 18 writers per month

  • 7 Guest Sessions with writer/editors and somatic practitioners)

  • A 75-minute Private Outlining Session

  • Curriculum on Somatic Writing Tools, Fire and Bone Stories, Central Metaphor, and Fascia Stories (Connective Narratives).

  • An intimate writer's community

  • A path to your completed first draft in one year

  • Three Systemic Ancestral Healing Sessions in the year  

  • Quarterly Day-Long Writing Retreats (10am-4pm CT) - held online

  • Everything in our Story Archaeology Program (4 optional calls/month!)

The Somatic Memoir Lab

+ Private Coaching

Year Long Mentorship Program

  • 2 x Writing Workshops with Tanya - per month

  • 1 x Embodied Writing Session - per month

  • 1 X Meeting with your Cohort of 18 writers per month

  • 7 Guest Sessions with writer/editors and somatic practitioners)

  • A 75-minute Private Outlining Session

  • Sixteen private coaching sessions with your story midwife

  • Curriculum on Somatic Writing Tools, Fire and Bone Stories, Central Metaphor, and Fascia Stories (Connective Narratives)

  • An intimate writer's community

  • A path to your completed first draft in one year

  • Three Systemic Ancestral Healing Sessions in the year

  • Quarterly Day-Long Writing Retreats (10am-4pm CT) - held online

  • 75-minute Publication Assessment call at the end of the Program

  • Everything in our Story Archaeology Program (4 optional calls/month!)

“Tanya is a teacher and coach who has unlocked the code for creating a perfect environment to cultivate radical growth. I am a busy entrepreneur who came to Tanya with a story to share. Tanya was able to cultivate my skills in a way that gave a framework and a timeframe to see this project through from birth to creation. As a professional coach myself, I know good coaching works, but Tanya's approach that is equal parts pragmatic and creative, supported my effort in a way that would be unmatched by someone else. My time with Tanya has provided my work and my life a quantum transformation. If you're looking to level up in life and in your creative work, look no further.”

- Hailee Bland Walsh

“Tanya is a master magician. She has a gift for coaxing essential stories from a performer's backpack of possibilities. Her ways are subtle, but supportive as she makes it safe for storytellers to recognize their deepest truths. She then helps those narratives rise and take shape. Tanya is like a flute player who invites your stories to uncoil and dance in a haunting rhythm. She helps you recognize your most intriguing threads, then guides you in weaving a tapestry from your life. The result is a one-person show that has exceptional emotional integrity.”

- Dorothy Fadiman

Writer and Solo Performer, Academy Award Nominated Filmmaker

“Tanya’s brilliance, from decades of coaching others in theatrical memoir, or performance, is her uncanny talent for seeing the diamond heart of the story. She knows how to draw out the threads which need to be revealed. Her understanding of what drives human decisions and the underlying intention to be free and authentic is key in focusing the big picture on a memoir. She “sees” into the story and knows how to communicate what the next step needs to be.”

- Christa Lancaster

Frequently asked questions


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Unsere Retreats sind konzipiert für:

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Wie ist die Verpflegung?

Unsere Retreats beinhalten Vollpension und die Speisen werden vor Ort von uns selbst mit viel Liebe zubereitet. Du hast zu allen Mahlzeiten die Wahl zwischen zwei Gerichten oder kannst Dich an einem Büfett selbst bedienen. Gerne bieten wir Dir auch vegetarische oder vegane Alternativen an und berücksichtigen spezielle Diäten oder Unverträglichkeiten. Wirf einen Blick in die Speisekarte unseres nächsten Retreats.

Was ist alles im Preis enthalten?

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  • Verpflegung
  • Übernachtung
  • Alle kulturellen Aktivitäten, einschließlich Live-Musik


Was bedeutet desapalencao?

Worin unterscheiden sich desapalencao Retreats von anderen Retreats?

Der Inhalt: Es handelt sich um ein bodenständiges, logisches und pragmatisches Programm, das dazu beiträgt neue Ideen, Perspektiven und Werkzeuge zu erlernen. Das Ziel: Die Teilnehmenden unserer Retreats kehren mit praktischen Mitteln zurück nach hause und können diese für mehr Ausgeglichenheit, Ruhe und Glück in ihren Alltag integrieren. Das tägliche Leben ist das Spielfeld, um die Wirksamkeit des neu erworbenen Wissens, zu erproben. Mehr dazu hier…
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Wie sind die Rücktrittsregeln?

Wenn der Rücktritt bis drei Wochen vor Retreatbeginn bei uns eingeht, wird die Vorauszahlung/Bezahlung abzüglich einer Stornierungsgebühr von 100,- Euro erstattet. Bei späterem Eingang der Abmeldung gibt es keine Rückerstattung. Dies gilt auch für den Fall einer vorzeitigen Abreise. Eine andere Kostenregelung wird in begründeten Ausnahmefällen vereinbart. Falls desapalencao ein Retreat aus wichtigen Gründen absagen muss (z. B. Corona-Lockdown, Erkrankung), erhältst Du eine komplette Rückerstattung. Weitergehende Haftungs- und Schadensersatzansprüche sind ausgeschlossen. Reisekosten (z. B. Flug-, Bus- und Bahntickets) werden nicht erstattet.


The Somatic Memoir Lab exists to change the dominant culture through how we write our personal narratives.

I’ll be honest with you - The Somatic Memoir Lab doesn’t exist with the sole mission of  producing NY Times Best Selling Books (although we have all the resources to help you make it happen, if that’s what you want).

Our mission is much deeper than that. Our mission is to help leaders, visionaries, artists and empaths write culture-changing stories that create radical, quantum transformation in the reader and also in you, the writer.

This process of transformation is NOT for the faint of heart. 

It calls you to step closer to the center of your soul - and express it shamelessly.

It calls you to shine a light on your truth.

It calls you to burn through fear that gets in the way.

Fear of your family or spouse’s reaction.

Fear that you won’t be able to handle that trauma you’re digging up. 

Fear that your writing won't be good enough. 

As you release all your fears - your story in it’s divine perfection comes through. 

A story that the world is longing to hear from you.


I want to warn you that this journey of transformation and sharing your truth doesn’t promise safety. But there is a safe space available for the transformation.


In the Somatic Memoir Lab - you’ll find a radically safe space to move through the process. 


A cocoon - where you can  break down and break through without judgment. 


An incubator - with resources and warmth to keep you going when fears threaten to derail your mission. 


What can I promise you is that there’s radical liberation available on the other side of this process. Not just for you - for your readers, too. 

The Somatic Memoir Lab is nothing like anything you've tried before.

You’ve gone through other writing workshops, retreats or online courses - and you dropped out of them midway. (You’re not alone - most of my students have been through the same journey.) 

You didn’t get enough support - and you didn’t get the right kind of support. 

I understand that. To create a heartfelt literary masterpiece - you need the same level of support that literary writers have. (Most commercial writing programs don’t provide that.) 

The Somatic Memoir Lab is structured to give you access to everything you possibly need to complete your memoir - from inspiration, to somatic healing, to story retrieval support, to “writing in community” sessions. 

Having helped over one thousand artists and visionaries tell their stories - I know exactly where you’re likely to get stuck, and there’s support to help you move through those moments. 

If you feel called to take the next step with me - I’d be honored to support you.


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