The Somatic Memoir Lab is here to help you finally write it.
Your soul has been longing to write a memoir.
Dear Soulful Visionary,
I see you. You’ve done amazing things in the world.
You are a leader, an artist, a change maker.
You are a born teacher - and you’ve used it for good.
You fought hard for your good fortune - and you made it.
You have deep friendships, a loving family and an honest relationship with yourself and others.
You have the health, joy and success you longed for. Experiences that blew your mind.
Yet, there’s a creative part of you that you haven’t expressed.
The storyteller. The poet. The artist. The mystic. The healer.
She remains hidden away.
The truth is: it never felt safe for you to express her genius - to unleash her wild, creative soul.
Even with all the privileges that come with success - you felt marginalized your entire life.
Marginalized for your sensitivity, your brilliance, your intuition.
Marginalized for having a soul that shines a little too bright.
Marginalized for your fiery heart, expansive vision, childlike tenderness.
You always knew you were different.
You felt more deeply.
You knew things - without knowing how you know them.
You got consumed by topics that interested you - and you couldn’t stop yourself from going deeper and deeper.
You felt like you were “too much” for the world - yet “not enough” for what your soul longs to create in this world.
I see you. I feel you. I am you.
And I also know - there’s a story within you.
A story only you can tell.
A story that is as ancient as time itself - longing to be expressed in a new way.
A story that truly matters - for people, for culture, for the world.
It’s my life’s mission
to help you write that story.
Hey, I am Tanya Taylor Rubinstein...
...and I’m obsessed with telling the stories that truly matter.
I started off my career as an actor when I was 20 - and soon after, I met my mentor (late) Spalding Gray, a famous solo performer. He had broken away from traditional acting to tell the taboo stories through his solo performances - stories that people didn’t have the permission to tell back in the day.
His performances liberated me after growing up in a conventional upper middle class family from the Washington DC area.
Throughout my childhood, my family conveyed to me that I couldn’t express any emotions or tell stories about anything that mattered.
Meeting my mentor finally gave me the permission to tell my own taboo stories - and inspired me to help other people do the same.
Over the last 3 decades - I’ve been on the quest to master the art of storytelling - and helping people liberate the stories that truly matter.
This journey has been wild, to say the least.
I left the East Coast and moved to Santa Fe, New Mexico - based on pure intuition.
I travelled to India to meet a guru in Lucknow who I thought was going to give me enlightenment. I almost died instead, became disillusioned, and returned to my own art form of story.
I wrote + performed my first one-woman show called Honeymoon in India (which became one of the top shows of the year in New Mexico).
I have helped my students write + perform over 50 shows - featuring important stories from:
✦ Patients with Cancer, HIV-AIDS and Mental Health Conditions (and their family members)
✦ Young Palestinian and Israeli women about war + peace
✦ Veterans with PTSD who have become peace activists
✦ Hospice caregivers
Over the last 3 decades, I’ve helped well over 1000 people write and publish their memoirs, perform their solo shows on stage and write personal monologues that share their deepest soul experiences with the world.
It has been deeply therapeutic for me and my clients to tell our stories - it has created more healing, peace and joy than I ever thought possible.
I have always known that storytelling is my path - my spiritual, emotional, human path.
It’s my honor and joy to help my clients tell their stories at the highest level - so they can heal their heart, express their divinity and create a new narrative from these ancient stories.
Imagine: What would it be like to have completed your memoir 12 months from now?
What would it be like to...
✦ Finally take your scraps of writing and myriad ideas - and create a profound, brilliant book out of it?
✦ Use your body as a guide - to blend your divinity with your humanity - and share the stories that are begging to be born through you?
✦ Experience storytelling as a therapeutic medium - connecting with the spiritual side of grief, loss, heartache - as well as unacknowledged intuitive gifts and joy?
✦ Allow a greater message to flow through your voice and your wisdom - connecting your life’s purpose to the evolution of collective consciousness?
✦ Have all the support you needed to stay on track, write an incredible memoir - and share your life as a gift to the world?
This is what I’m here to help you create in the Somatic Memoir Lab.
Somatic Writing Memoir Lab Methodology
Go from struggling, blocked writer, to successful, published author.
Liberate Your Voice, Write Your Book, & Publish to Untether Your Power.
“Tanya’s work is a gift and a necessity.”
- O, Oprah Magazine
“I have been coached and trained by over 50 writers across the world, some with huge international recognition, and not one has ever opened me to myself the way Tanya does. Tanya is a powerful guide through the chaotic and often painful journey of writing and discovery.
If you've decided to write directly toward the truth no matter where it goes and you've found it challenging, lonely or scary... this is the answer. If you are a writer or aspiring to be, and you want a safe and powerful container to find your voice in writing, I can't recommend Tanya enough.”
- Andrya Allen, Founder of Vox Verba & Writer
“Tanya has been the ancient midwife of my story. She cradled me, wept with me, sang me through my grief, coaxed my words, and gently guided me to the courage to birth my voice. She once said to me, “I can’t promise you safety here.” In its place, she supported me in the ultimate radical soul liberation - the telling of my story.”
- Melissa Kaplan
Author & Somatic Therapist
“Tanya Taylor Rubinstein is the Story Shaman. Let us not use this word lightly. What she does, better than anyone I’ve met, is weave your calling, God’s purpose, and the mundane trivialities of life into a vibrant tapestry, called Story. These stories heal, inspire and ignite in ways you never imagined. When you receive the call to be with her, listen.”
- Susan Crowther
Author & Editor
- Diana Lightmoon, Psychotherapist & Writer
Tanya has a gift and that gift is to help you find the deepest truth, and then she holds your feet to the fire until you tell it to the best of your ability.
Being in the group is so supportive -- taking the isolation out of being a writer, and also out of the past I’m writing about in which I felt so alone. It's helping me find the voice I lost as a child, or probably more accurately never had or developed, and giving it the space to develop now."
The Somatic Writing Lab
It’s my honor to present:
The Somatic Memoir Lab is a 12-month mentorship program designed to help creatives, healers and visionaries connect with their bodies and write soulful memoirs out of the stories they’ve been longing to tell.
Phase 1: Story Archeology
In the first two months - we walk you through the process of calling back the mystical and other marginalized voices within you and allowing you to write stories from the body, the ancestors and the land.
We explore mystical realms and your ancestral lineage with the intention to liberate all the stories that are craving to be expressed through you. In this phase, we cover our core curriculum of Somatic Writing Tools.
Duration: 60 days
Phase 2: Story Architecture
In the next two months - we walk you through the process of mapping your story and create a high-level outline of your book with the support of Tanya and a qualified Story Midwife.
We will also be covering Fire and Bone Stories, Central Metaphor, and Fascia Stories (Connective Narratives). These are the basis of your living outline, which holds the book structure.
Duration: 60 days
Phase 3: The Body Of The Book
In the next six months of the program - we support you in creating the body of your book.
You will receive structured, weekly Studio Sessions with Tanya and the story midwives to help you write your own unique stories - while being inspired by great authors and fellow writers who are on this journey with you.
You will also get supported by Somatic Healers who will help you address the trauma in your ancestral family constellation system - unblocking your writing and opening you to the multiple layers and timelines of your story.
You will receive all the support that full time literary writers receive - and more!
Duration: 180 days
Phase 4: Preparation for Publishing
In the last two months of the program, you’ll receive an editorial evaluation from Tanya and her team of editors. You will be guided to a path of self-publishing, hybrid publishing or traditional publishing, based on what’s right for you and your intentions for the book.
Duration: 60 days
“Tanya is a teacher and coach who has unlocked the code for creating a perfect environment to cultivate radical growth. I am a busy entrepreneur who came to Tanya with a story to share. Tanya was able to cultivate my skills in a way that gave a framework and a timeframe to see this project through from birth to creation. As a professional coach myself, I know good coaching works, but Tanya's approach that is equal parts pragmatic and creative, supported my effort in a way that would be unmatched by someone else. My time with Tanya has provided my work and my life a quantum transformation. If you're looking to level up in life and in your creative work, look no further.”
- Hailee Bland Walsh
Writer & Owner of City Gym
“Tanya is a master magician. She has a gift for coaxing essential stories from a performer's backpack of possibilities. Her ways are subtle, but supportive as she makes it safe for storytellers to recognize their deepest truths. She then helps those narratives rise and take shape. Tanya is like a flute player who invites your stories to uncoil and dance in a haunting rhythm. She helps you recognize your most intriguing threads, then guides you in weaving a tapestry from your life. The result is a one-person show that has exceptional emotional integrity.”
- Dorothy Fadiman
Writer and Solo Performer, Academy Award Nominated Filmmaker
“Tanya’s brilliance, from decades of coaching others in theatrical memoir, or performance, is her uncanny talent for seeing the diamond heart of the story. She knows how to draw out the threads which need to be revealed. Her understanding of what drives human decisions and the underlying intention to be free and authentic is key in focusing the big picture on a memoir. She “sees” into the story and knows how to communicate what the next step needs to be.”
- Christa Lancaster
Writer & Therapist
“Tanya is at once gentle and challenging. I have faith she can coax out the real story that wants to be told. She understands how we stop ourselves and how to bypass those obstacles. I’m coming to understand that the story doesn't have to be about ‘how I became a perfected being;’ it can be about the angst and doubt and messiness of who we really are.”
- Juliet Calabi, Writer
"The Somatic Writing Lab with Tanya has been an amazing experience on many levels. I don’t think I fully comprehended what I was getting into when I signed up – other than the distant possibility of a first draft of my memoir. But for me this class has been so much more. No matter what the focus of your story, it is woven from all aspects of your life. Likewise, the illumination and liberation that Tanya provides has carried over well beyond the writing of my memoir. If you yearn to really tap into your creativity and explore the deepest depths of your possibilities, consider this class. If you are ready to take a “leap of faith” – then I suggest you consider jumping into this! I recommend it without hesitation!"
- Alicia M. Nemec,
Retired Commander, U.S. Navy, Attorney, Farmer, Writer
“Tanya created a creative container for my book project that allowed me to progress despite the periods when I lost momentum. Her firm but tender guidance provided me with just enough structure to finish my manuscript. She promised I would feel differently about myself after its completion and I do. I continue to draw upon her suggestions for accessing my wisest self."
- Janet Pfeffer
Frequently asked questions
How many guests can WaterVue hold?
As one of the best places to get married in Fort Walton Beach, WaterVue can accommodate up to 300 guests (inside and outside) for your special day. Our average wedding is between 75-125 people; however, we cater to the large, lavish weddings, as well as small, intimate weddings.
Are there different capacities for the various rooms?
WaterVue’s ballroom has a completely open floor plan with panoramic waterfront views of the Santa Rosa Sound. The ballroom is equipped with a large bar, dance floor, elevated stage and plenty of space for your guests to sit down and relax and/or enjoy a nice dinner. There is also a beautiful booth area for your guests to visit, enjoy a glass of wine or have pictures taken. Watch the most spectacular sunsets on our gorgeous wrap-a-round deck or from inside the spacious ballroom. We refer you to our floor plan on the website.
Not to be forgotten, the groom also needs a private oasis. The groom can prepare and tie-one-on in the “Groom’s Retreat” which is equipped with a bar and flat screen TV.
Can we have our ceremony and reception there?
Yes, you may certainly have your ceremony and reception at WaterVue. There is a gorgeous waterfront arbor allowing your guests to witness the exchange of vows outdoors. There is also a large deck overlooking the Santa Rosa Sound where the ceremony can take place. Following the outdoor ceremony simply move indoors for the reception. There are also other indoor options that can be discussed. The options are truly endless.
Another option is to enjoy a barefoot wedding on the white, sandy beaches of Okaloosa Island, just a short distance from WaterVue, where the reception will follow. Should the couple encounter inclement weather on their special day, WaterVue is a great back-up plan as we can host both the ceremony and the reception inside at a moment’s notice. We pride ourselves on catering to the couple’s special day in all circumstances … rain or shine.
Will there be onsite accommodation for our guests?
No sorry, we do not have offer accommodation.
How does the pricing structure work for weddings?
For all weddings, we rent out the facility for 12 hours for up to 300 people. This price includes rental of facility, set-up time, available tables & chairs, and the cleaning of the facility. Any event that runs over the allotted booked time or past 12 midnight will incur an additional fee that must be paid fully in cash. Prices may vary during the month of December, on certain holidays and holiday weekends. Please consult us for more details on these dates.
How does the pricing structure work for non-wedding events?
What is your policy on children?
While WaterVue understands that children are often a vital part of your special event. Should children be in attendance, it is mandatory that they are supervised by an adult at all times. We highly recommend off-site child-care for your special day as it will make the event more enjoyable for both the adults and children. If you are interested in childcare services for the little-one’s, please contact us.
Do we have a choice in which suppliers we can use?
Yes. At WaterVue, your satisfaction is our number one priority, and you can choose to have our professional team handle all the details, providing impeccable service (catering, music, photography, florist, etc.) so that you may relax and enjoy the event. However, for those wanting a more affordable option, we allow our clients the “facility only” option, where you handle your own catering, bartending, music, photography, etc.
We have a complete listing of preferred vendors for your convenience. However, you are free to choose your own suppliers. WaterVue will need a listing of all vendors who will have access to the facility at least 30-days prior to the event (caterer, florist, event planner, DJ, bartenders, musicians, cake maker, officiant, etc). In addition, the caterer will need to provide a copy of his/her license and insurance/bond to WaterVue at least 30-days prior to event.
Note: WaterVue does not supply any plates, flatware, stemware, etc. for the event, so please ensure you have that arranged with your caterer. The caterer will need to sign a separate contract with WaterVue.
Is there plenty of natural light for our photographer?
Yes. WaterVue is situated on the Santa Rosa Sound, boasting panoramic waterfront views. Our facility takes full advantage of this breathtaking vantage point with its gorgeous wrap-a-round deck, making it perfect for photography. The entire venue has plenty of windows and doors allowing for more than sufficient sunlight indoors with fantastic background views. WaterVue is perfect for wedding photography, both indoors and outdoors. Please refer to our reviews page of the website so you can see some of the photography taken at WaterVue.
Is there plenty of outdoor space?
Yes. WaterVue has a gorgeous wrap-a-round deck, large enough for your ceremony to be held under a waterfront arbor allowing your guests to witness the exchange of vows. The wrap-a-round deck is accessible at all times via the main ballroom. There is a second (private) deck we offer located directly off of the Bride’s Suite. This magical deck overlooking the Santa Rosa Sound has served for both exchange of vows as well as a great location for cocktail hour. The venue is very versatile and can be designed to fit your specific needs. For more information on the space, please download the floor plan.
Is there plenty of parking? What about handicapped guests?
Yes, there is ample free parking on premises. On your special day, we post signs in our parking lot indicating “Private Parking for WaterVue”. In addition, WaterVue is a handicap accessible facility. As a courtesy, we also offer oxygen concentrators for the infirmed. Please let us know in advance if you will need this service.
What chairs and tables can we use?
Tables and chairs for as many as 150 guests are included in the rental agreement. For specifications on the tables and chairs available at WaterVue, please refer to the floor plan. You can use the floor plan to create the event of your dreams according to your guest count and event details. Please note that extra chairs and tables are not included in the fee and will need to be rented by an external vendor.
How many other weddings are likely to take place on the same day as ours?
None. Because your satisfaction is our number one priority, we have a strict policy to have only one event per day. We are here to make your special occasion one that nobody will ever forget.
What are our bar options?
WaterVue has a phenomenal bar to service all of your guests. As a huge cost savings to you, WaterVue allows you to supply your own alcoholic beverages; however, your guests cannot be charged any fee for beverages. Should alcoholic beverages be served at the event, the drinks must be served by a licensed bartender. We require at least one bartender per 100 guests. WaterVue does not permit any guests behind the bar. For more information on the bar options, please contact us.
When can we get in the venue to give access to our suppliers on the day?
All of the details surrounding your day will be carefully attended to in advance. Once you have signed your contract and decided on your rental period, the start time of rental period will be stated on your contract. This is the time you and your vendors are able to access the venue. We will work closely with you to ensure that everything runs smoothly.
Can I bring in my own decorations or are decorations included?
Each special event is unique to your preferences, so you are more than welcome to bring your own decorations or have your vendor decorate the venue for you. WaterVue has a standard offer for the rental of decorations, including but not limited to lanterns with battery-operated candles and many other decorations to choose from. Please refer to our Decorations Guide to see what we offer. We also offer a gorgeous backdrop to add the finishing touch to your wedding.
Are there any particular restrictions such as the use of confetti or candles?
Yes, at WaterVue, we only allow battery-operated candles. Candles and/or floating candles are only allowed if they are contained in a deep vase or hurricane glass vase, approved by WaterVue’s management prior to event. WaterVue does not permit confetti or rice. You may use dried flowers on the outer deck. Sparklers and bubbles are permitted outside the front entrance but not inside the premises or on the deck.
Is the location easy to access?
Yes, WaterVue is easy to access and has ample parking on site. There is also access to WaterVue from the Santa Rosa Sound. The happy couple or guest(s) of honor can make their grand entrance to the event on our fabulous Wedding Boat, simply stepping off the boat onto the deck of WaterVue. Unique and memorable!
Note: During summer months (peak season), traffic is very heavy in locations at and near the beach. Please keep this in mind when making transportation arrangements for you and your guests. Please advise your guests to allow ample time for driving to and from the event.
I would like to take a tour of the venue, is that possible?
Of course, we’d love to give you a viewing. Please call, email us or use the contact form in the website, and we can set up an appointment for a tour and to talk about your details. For each tour, a great deal of thought into how to present the property to each couple that visits WaterVue. When you come for your site visit, we want to ensure that we provide you with enough time to look at everything you want to view. Whether it’s our gorgeous ballroom, spectacular views, our Bride’s Suite or something specific, it important that we tour it all.
I have a date, how do I book? What is the deposit?
If you have already had a tour and discussed your details, you will receive an email with complete information on how to proceed. If you still need to visit our site, please set up an appointment for a tour. Most contracts can be arranged through the mail! A non-refundable security deposit of 50% of the cost of the facility rental is required to secure your date. This deposit will be applied toward the balance due. Balance in full is due six-months (for weddings) and three-months (other events) prior to the event. You can always check to see the availability of dates on our website.
Are deposits refundable?
Once you have reserved our venue for your event, we no longer offer the date or location to other potential clients; therefore, we may not resell the date. If your event is cancelled, we cannot refund your deposit.
What happens in the case of inclement weather?
At WaterVue, we always have a back-up plan. The ceremony can always be moved indoors. In the case of having to move the ceremony, costs may be incurred depending on logistics.
A Day-of- Event coordinator is required for the day of the wedding. Why and how do I arrange this?
Yes, a Day-of-Event coordinator or wedding planner is required for all weddings. If you do not have a Day-of-Event coordinator, we can provide you with one. There are a multitude of reasons we insist upon the Day-of-Event coordinator. For full details on a Day-of-Event coordinator, we refer you to our Day-Of-Event coordinator document. This should make it completely clear to why one is necessary. The day-of-event coordinator or event planner must be present at the venue through the entire duration of the rental time.
When do I need to give my final headcount for my wedding?
One week before your wedding, we request your final headcount. The maximum number of guests allowed at WaterVue at any time is 300 persons. All persons, including children over the age of one, are to be included in the head count. We suggest that you also give both your caterer and your wedding planner a heads up, too. It is appropriate to include your vendors in the guest count. Whether or not it’s included in your contract with your caterer, it’s a good idea to feed your vendors during dinner time. (They’ve been working so hard during the wedding; you don’t want them to be hungry for the final part of it!) It’s also a good idea to ask your caterer how many extra plates they will prepare. Some will throw in a few ‘just in case’ meals — it’s good to know beforehand how many to expect!
The Somatic Memoir Lab exists to change the dominant culture through how we write our personal narratives.
I’ll be honest with you - The Somatic Memoir Lab doesn’t exist with the sole mission of producing NY Times Best Selling Books (although we have all the resources to help you make it happen, if that’s what you want).
Our mission is much deeper than that. Our mission is to help leaders, visionaries, artists and empaths write culture-changing stories that create radical, quantum transformation in the reader and also in you, the writer.
This process of transformation is NOT for the faint of heart.
It calls you to step closer to the center of your soul - and express it shamelessly.
It calls you to shine a light on your truth.
It calls you to burn through fear that gets in the way.
Fear of your family or spouse’s reaction.
Fear that you won’t be able to handle that trauma you’re digging up.
Fear that your writing won't be good enough.
As you release all your fears - your story in it’s divine perfection comes through.
A story that the world is longing to hear from you.
I want to warn you that this journey of transformation and sharing your truth doesn’t promise safety. But there is a safe space available for the transformation.
In the Somatic Memoir Lab - you’ll find a radically safe space to move through the process.
A cocoon - where you can break down and break through without judgment.
An incubator - with resources and warmth to keep you going when fears threaten to derail your mission.
What can I promise you is that there’s radical liberation available on the other side of this process. Not just for you - for your readers, too.
The Somatic Memoir Lab is nothing like anything you've tried before.
You’ve gone through other writing workshops, retreats or online courses - and you dropped out of them midway. (You’re not alone - most of my students have been through the same journey.)
You didn’t get enough support - and you didn’t get the right kind of support.
I understand that. To create a heartfelt literary masterpiece - you need the same level of support that literary writers have. (Most commercial writing programs don’t provide that.)
The Somatic Memoir Lab is structured to give you access to everything you possibly need to complete your memoir - from inspiration, to somatic healing, to story retrieval support, to “writing in community” sessions.
Having helped over one thousand artists and visionaries tell their stories - I know exactly where you’re likely to get stuck, and there’s support to help you move through those moments.
If you feel called to take the next step with me - I’d be honored to support you.